Parenting is a term and it is the ultimate long-term investment – parenting is the process of actively providing a safe and secure childhood/future for your children.
How to raise your child and how to prepare them for their adult life is not something that is universally agreed upon or done the same way around the world. Being a parent is hard and the point is to be good parents for their own children. How to be good parents is different depending on their culture, and Chinese children are not requisite raised the same way as American children. In connection with the set of values used the parenting and education by Chinese parents and American parents have more differences than similarities. All parents want happy, confident and strong children, the means for getting them there are very different in the two cultures.
Amy Chua, researched of Chinese children’s performance in the school system, and it seems to indicate that a certain truth can be lead from her “descriptions” of how she raised her own children. Being a mother of two daughters – Amy Chua believes she has the recipe for success, but both girls have been raised the strict traditional Chinese way, where things such as playdates, watching TC, sleepovers and playing computer games is banned and grades less than “A” are not accepted in their home. The tiger mom doesn’t accept anything below an a for her daughters and she had only once gotten an “A” – she thinks that western families are too sweet towards their
Though this method make them appear to have a sense of agency, they are just damaging their authenticity by covering their efforts. They lack the agency they desire because they were not raised in the correct form. Chinese parents, on the other hand, raise their children to be firm and independent. It is almost as if Chinese parents program their children to succeed without the help of others no matter what costs. Chua differentiates the outcome of each parenting methods “Western parents are extremely self
This clearly reveals how important of the family pride and reputation is to a Chinese family. As a Chinese girl growing up in a Chinese family, I know what it is really mean to my family exactly. I was taught to be a loyal and responsible person since I was a child. I know my family will be responsible for my wrongdoings, so I always follow the rules that my family gave to me because I do not want them to be ashamed of me. Hence, to some extent, we cannot avoid the influence of culture because it is invisible but powerful in different aspects of our
Dear Mrs. Amy Chua, As an experienced (seasoned) mother of four, having recently read an excerpt from your book “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother” I unconditionally disagree with your perspective on this idea. Your ideal parenting method is unacceptable as it damages self-esteem, confidence, and creativity. It truly scares me to think that the content of your article may persuade amateur parents to mimic you and your “tactics”, which would be an absolutely tragic plummet in parenting standards, sending us back to the 1900s. I understand that you believe that the best way to raise a child is through an intense regimen consisting of limited leisure and long hours of study. However, you must recognize that there is much more to childhood than this.
This is the classic story between parent and child in Amy Tan’s “Two Kinds.” The theme of this story revolves around a mother who wants nothing but the best for her daughter. Mrs. Woo, the mother of Jing-mei, is a struggling immigrant who had lost everything in China and believes in the American dream by stating, "My mother believed you could be anything you wanted to be in America” (639). She puts Jing-mei into various activities to figure out what she could be good at.
In “Two Kinds”, Amy Tan uses visual imagery to reveal the true tension in of mother-daughter relationships, when parents push their children to their limits, they truly want the best for them to succeed and have no regrets about what they did or did not do in their childhood years. All relationships have their ups and downs, however parent and child relationships have some of the toughest challenges when it comes to pushing their child to be the best they can. Jing Mei and her mother have a hard altercation with one another when Jing Mei cries in frustration about her future and her mother “shouted. “Only ask you be your best. For you sake.
Many parents have different ways of raising their children to become successful. In the article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” Amy Chua explains how Chinese parenting are better than western parenting. While in the article “Mother Inferior” Hanna Rosin explains that western parenting is a better ways of raising their children. Both think that their method of raising their child are better than the others. While both authors discuss parenting, they differ in the way they praise their child, the ways they punish their child, and the manner they speak to the child.
Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother Critique Amy Chua, a professor at Yale Law School, has created an article called Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother that intensively describes differences in the usage of parenting methods in Chinese and Westerners culture. The author has personally raised her children in a highly strict manner so her children succeed in life and academics. Chua often refers to the term “Chinese mother” that describes her parenting style apart from Western parents. The main purpose of this article is to show the two parenting techniques and how they affect the child 's success.
Parenting style is one of many factors that strongly influence child development. It is most often created by their cultural background. Parenting practices vary from differ culture ultimately determines the outcomes of child development. Each culture has specific styles of parenting that instill values on children particular to that culture. While comparing Indian and American parenting styles in discipline, respect, and mindset, it is clear that parents are influenced by their culture.
In Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, western parents, as Chua describes, are ruining the Chinese parenting style. “All these new books out there portraying Asian mothers as scheming, callous, overdriven people indifferent to their kids’ true interests.” Her concern with these books is that it portrays the Chinese parenting as the wrong way when Chua, who is a Chinese mother, sees herself loving and sacrificing more for her kids. This shows that western parents are portraying that the Chinese parenting method as inferior without really diving deeper into why Chinese parents parent the way they do and just assuming they are doing it all wrong. In Spoiled Rotten, while Carolina traveled to an Amazonian village, she was surprised that Yanira, a young girl of another family,”quickly found ways to make herself useful...
Many parents continuously dispute on the ways of raising children nonetheless, not one parent will be perfect and there is no right way. While some uninvolved, permissive, authoritarian, and authoritative (Welch, 2007). Parenting is not only difficult but also controversial. Parents constantly debate the right and wrong ways to raise children however, no parent is perfect and there is no right way. While some uninvolved, permissive, authoritarian, and authoritative (Welch, 2007).
People who become parents, generally understand that they have to raise their children in a certain way so that they will become healthy and functional members of society. Most of these parents also understand that if they do not give their children proper care and attention, their child may not have a successful future. Often times, parents would argue which method is the best to raise their child and which way is wrong. Everyone seems to have their own definition of parenting. Most people however, would disagree with the way Rex and Rose Mary Walls in The Glass Castle raised their children.
A mother-daughter relationship is one of the most fragile relationships to exist. By saying or doing one thing, the relationship between a mother and her daughter can be changed forever. Chinese-American writers Amy Chua, in Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom, and Amy Tan, in The Joy Luck Club, both portray mother-daughter relationships where the mother just wants her daughter to succeed. Although the mothers want the same outcome, they have different methods of achieving them. While both writers are expressing a relationship between a mother and a daughter where the mother simply wants what is best, Amy Chua’s relationship with her daughter is stressful yet caring, proved by an irritable and calm tone, but Amy Tan’s relationship with her mother
Learning to appreciate the differences between the two cultures is important and helps to broaden the understanding of cultural differences. Western cultures are based on individualism rather than collectivism. In many Western societies, emphasis is placed on individual rights unlike Chinese culture, where the country, society or family are based above self. At first glance, Chinese is obviously different from Western Culture.
With the aim of understanding the effects of parenting styles on social behaviour of children, I have studied many researches and realised that parenting style has a major role in a child’s social behavioural development. Parenting style is over all style or example we took from our parents in bringing up one's children instead of a particular choice taken at a particular circumstance. This pattern develops the personality of the child. There are two fundamental components of parenting style, one is responsiveness that is the amount you're willing to give freedom to your child and the other is demanding that is the way strict you are or dutifulness you require.
In her essay,”Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior”, Amy Chua says,”If a Chinese child gets a B... The devastated Chinese mother would then get dozens, maybe hundreds of practice tests and work through them with her child for as long as it takes to get that grade up to an A.” The Chinese mother in this scenario helps her kid get through the challenge and without her help his grade may have remained a B. And if it was a mother who let her son try to solve the challenge on his own, he may have just given up thinking he could not raise his grade. Also kids will eventually learn to deal with challenges on their own if they are assisted by their parents because over time they will probably pick up on the problem-solving methods they’re parents employ and utilize them on their