Have you ever heard the story about a woman who had been ‘smacked’ around or degraded by her boyfriend or husband? The story about a woman who despite everything still stayed in the abusive relationship? And I can bet that you thought this woman was crazy or simply stupid for staying in this kind of a relationship. In my essay, I will give voice to all the women who have stayed in an abusive relationship and will explain why they did so in the first place. I will show you that the reasons for staying are of sociological, psychological and extremely emotional character and that these girls and women alike can call themselves survivors; and rightly so.
- When abuse has been ongoing for a length of time , the victim can feel like she/he deserves the abuse, is in denial over the extent of the abuse, embarrassed about others finding out, fear being killed if they left and fear the impact on the children or losing the children. Many victims of domestic and family violence, believe nothing can be done for them- they see on the news how little action is done such as in the case of Benjamin Ard and the assault of two women. In this case Ard charged with domestic violence, but was released from jail on $1,000 cash bail. He went on to breach his bail and was then charged with domestic violence assault and violating the conditions of release from a prior charge; he was sentenced to only thirteen months
Introduction Domestic violence occurs between two adults in a relationship that includes one controlling the other, resulting in physical abuse or mental abuse and neglect. Some of the contributing factors that initiate the domestic violence includes being insecure, non-employed, drinking and using drugs. These factors can result in one getting hurt or dying from their inflicted injuries. Furthermore, children can be emotionally and mentally traumatized over the course of events that they witnessed in the home and act out their aggression in school. To break the cycle of domestic violence the individual would have to leave the relationship and seek out help through family, friends, police, medical psychologist.
The home is supposed to be a safe haven from the dangers of the outside world. What occurs behind closed doors, however, is not always as it appears to be. There are startling numbers of incidents of domestic abuse across the nation. It is a huge social problem that has tremendous costs each year. Contrary to popular belief, domestic abuse is not limited to any particular victimology type or socio-economic status.
In attempt to make amends with the victim, the abuser apologizes for his actions; he then enters a ‘honeymoon stage’ where no tension is built for a short amount of time. However, victims of domestic violence, particularly women, tend to repeatedly forgive their attacker repeatedly and so the cycle continues. As the abuse repeats, the victim develops learned helplessness, meaning that no matter what he does he feels as if the abuse is his fault and takes responsibility for it. The learned helplessness continues and the victim is convinced that his abuse cannot be escaped; the victim develops Battered Women’s
Domestic violence exists, it is a serious and an important issue I believe should be brought to the table of conversation. Domestic violence can rip family’s apart, cause people to loose trust in one another, as well as bring victims to their lowest points of self-worth. The abuse can be issued from multiple persons in the family: father to child, mother to child, teenage child
The cycle of violence can be a vicious one that can repeat itself if the victim or offender does not change their thought process (Martin, 2014). The attribution theory can help in either cover up or uncover a core issue in domestic violence. In essence, the attribution theory explores how the victims attribute the partner’s abusive behavior (Martin, 2014). For example, if the victim recognizes that the abusive behavior is due to an inability to manage emotions, then this self-realization is what leads a victim to leave the abusive relationship (Martin, 2013). In this case, the attribution theory can uncover a core issue. Another example would be not excusing the offender’s domestic abuse to drinking alcohol and constant partying. Rather, recognizing
As defined in “Establishing A Domestic Abuse Care Pathway”, domestic violence is “Any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those… who are or have been intimate partners or family members, regardless of gender or sexuality. The abuse can encompass… psychological, physical, sexual, financial, or emotional [abuse].” Domestic violence is common, with around 1 in 4 women experiencing it at some point in their lives, and there are many things that need to be fixed about the handling of domestic abuse cases. (Bradbury-Jones) Our society should fix how we deal with abusers, set up an improved care pathway to deal with domestic abuse, and in this pathway improve the response to
It can be difficult for a man to find someone willing to believe that they’re a victim of abuse. The prevailing image of “man as aggressor” or “men are stronger” leads to the common belief that he’s somehow “earned” his abuse by provoking his abuser. Other times, they fear – with justification – being ignored or mocked for “allowing” their partner to hurt them. In the popular portrayal of the henpecked husband, the man is frequently shown as being a weakling who’s incapable of standing up to his wife and thus “earns” his abuse as punishment for being so weak and
Abusers always want things to get better but for some it never will. Some people don’t even recognize that they are in a abuse relationship, and if they do recognize they are still dealing with it because most likely their is a kid involved. If you think your in a domestic violence relationship contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline or you can think about the things I mention earlier and see is anything relates to you and your relationship. “Don’t let your loyalty become slavery. If they don’t appreciate what you bring to the table… then let them eat alone” - Anonymous.
It is never fair to ask “Why will she not she leave?”. A victim can be defined as “an individual who has been confronted, attacked or violated by a perceived predator, resulting in short or long term physical and/ or mental injuries as a result.” (Burgess, Regehr & Roberts, 2012, p. 10). All of the women were victims to ongoing abuse by their partners and were at constant risk for revictimization. This further grasps the term of intimate partner violence which overarches what type of situations, these women were exposed to (Burgess et al., 2012, p. 290)
What would you do if you had a gun pointed at your head by your spouse several times? Or beaten twice a week? Leslie Morgan Steiner, has been though domestic abuse and creates a speech to answer a question most people ask, “Why does she stay?” (Steiner). In the speech logos, pathos and ethos are used to make her point proven on how domestic abuse is an important issue and why it need to be spoken about.
Domestic violence is an ongoing matter which occurs worldwide. When thinking about domestic violence, one might automatically think about women being the victim, however it is very common for men to be victims in domestic violence disputes as well. According to a national survey done in 2010 by the U.S. Department of Justice and Centers of Disease Control, more men were victims of intimate partner physical violence within the last twelve months. Also over 40 percent of severe physical violence was directed at men (SAFE, 2015). Men being abused is an issue that is overlooked with very little sources available to male victims of domestic violence (SAFE, 2015).
A child who experiences trauma of domestic violence will hinder their emotional growth, hence the child will not develop and maintain a normal level of trust. A child that experiences domestic violence or is exposed to domestic violence can develop a fear of their environment, for they think that everyone will try to hurt them. They also do not trust anyone with their problems or issues, hence they will keep everything inside and this will affect their state of mind. An abused spouse may experience chronic psydiasmatic pain or pain due to diffuse trauma without visible evidence. This form of pain will have a very bad effect on the body.
Lastly, there is denial and blame. Abusers will make any excuse for their bad and violent behavior. They will blame it on having a bad day or a childhood experience. But at the end of the day you will be blamed for everything they do. They will deny everything they have done if they need