Social Competence Prism Model: Social Competence In Lifespan

My preferred lens describes me completely; I use my experience in life to make decision even those things that I know are unethical. I am risky and make calculated decisions when I feel it is necessary. I do not consider the group as a whole but as individuals who are coming from different walks of life. Autonomy is how you approach the situation, when making decisions that will affect other individuals. My preferred lens does not change based on my location, situation, or attitude.

I still am me, but I am more open to deal with conflicts head on instead of accepting them. Learning From analyzing my crisis, I learned that even though it was an experience I did not want to have, it provided me an opportunity to challenge myself and go head on with something I disagree. It opened my eyes that I learn and grow from experience and by approaching different situation instead of avoiding them or relying on someone else. Because of this, I try to approach more situations and deal with them by myself, if possible, so that I would learn how to deal with situations as these with more ease and professional

I could have utilized a little more perspective taking to better understand why my superiors had the positions they did. I only utilized perspective taking to better understand where Harry was coming from. This made me favor too much to Harry which limited the solutions that I thought of that would have equally benefited both Harry and ModernThink. This type of negotiation needed a high level of understanding of the interests of both parties in order to effectively make a deal between them. By not doing this to its full potential ultimately assisted in the decision of not making a

Wallace argues that actual thinking and education involves gaining a conscious awareness, often that those around us are in reality just as important as we are. So while people are more likely to attribute behavior to another’s personality, especially if it’s negative, this is far from accurate. This is a big piece to Gilbert’s model if people do not use controlled think or thinking that is effortful, conscious, and intentional (textbook, p.65) to see someone’s situational attribution they are misinterpreting information. This occurs automatically and even involuntary, which is why Wallace referred to it as a default setting. However, even if initially people are making attributions to someone’s internal state, they can change this way of thinking and recognize outside situations.

Identity Most people believe that identity is a fixed factor of your personality, but as Mel Schwartz says in her article, “we are perpetually re-framing, re-organizing, re-thinking, and re-considering ourselves”. With all the changing we as humans do it would be impossible to constantly be grounded to the same couple of words that we claim to be our identity. Schwartz mentions that there are two extremes when it comes to identity; those who know themselves and those who don’t know themselves. The perfect balanced between these two extremes is said to be ideal for truly creating your identity, but unfortunately is a very difficult task. In The Scarlet Letter by Nathaniel Hawthorne, Arthur Dimmesdale is certain he knows his identity.

This mechanism gives rise to those states of mind which we are training ourselves to avoid - things like greed, lust, hatred, aversion, and jealousy. We choose to avoid these hindrances, not because they are evil in the normal sense of the word, but because they are compulsive; because they take the mind over and capture the attention completely; because they keep going round and round in tight little circles of thought; and because they seal us off from living

That is the reason why I disliked taking risks most of my life, and preferred quiet  activities. Now I realize that I have to make my own decisions; I have to consider things carefully, step-by-step so as not to mislead myself in making decisions. Even if I dislike taking risks, I am personally very good at making quick

The superego almost seems to be outside of the self, making moral judgments, telling us to make sacrifices for good causes even though self-sacrifice may not be quite logical or rational. And, in a sense, the superego is “outside”, since much of what it tells us to do or think we have learned from our parents, our schools, .or our religious institutions. What the ego and superego tell us not to do or think is repressed, forced into the unconscious mind. according to moral customs of parents and culture. It is, as Freud says in “The Anatomy of the Mental Personality,” the “representative of all moral restrictions, the advocate of the impulse toward perfection, in short it is as much as we have been able to apprehend psycho- logically of what people call the ‘higher’ things in human life”

The case “Alpha – Beta” is a very interesting case, which could be considered as one of my most favorable cases so far. What interested me was the fact that we had to act totally different from our conventional style. In fact, we were asked to behave collectively, formally, indirectly, patiently, unemotionally and passively. Although we could not make the deal, we all found this outcome understandable and predictable. What we learned from the exercise was to be aware of the existence of cross-cultural differences as well as how these differences affect our negotiation outcomes, then find out what should we do in the similar negotiation in our future.

My personality can be describe as Introverted since I am reserved, practical and quiet. When making a decision I prefer to analyse my surroundings, check the facts and concluded to practical solutions instead of making assumptions. When the decision is made I will gather the necessary information needed to achieve my goals and if working with others I expect them to grasp the situation immediately and take action. I have little to no tolerance for indecisiveness and assumptions in situations where there is a deadline because it is expected that persons hold their own. My obligations are my main priority even if personal matters have to suffer.