The foster home that I lived in had other foster kids and my foster parents Kathy and Mike also had children of their own as well. My foster parents children were so mean to me. I remember one time their middle child Kristi was brushing my hair and she was hurting me so I kept pulling forward. Kristi had gotten mad that I was doing that
Checking into the hospital at 3:08 AM, only to wait another 12 hours on the nose to have this long awaited baby. The family started showing up, the nurses started preparing me, and at 2:40 PM, it was time. Finally, here I was, at 3:08PM on the dot, Alyssa Stongle was the newest mommy at the hospital. Right then and there, I knew why my body was going through changes.
The doctor and nurses started getting everything set up for the delivery of my baby girl. I was scared and in pain, I couldn 't stop crying because I was feeling everything! I was checked again and I was at 10 CM! Which meant it was time to have my first baby girl X mission point everyone was so excited! Me, not so much.
My story, unlike many others, took a dramatic turn of events when I was merely 10 months old. I was taken away from everything I knew and had been accustomed to. I was placed in a totally new world, 7,000 miles away, with a new beginning and new family. My story centers on my transracial adoption as a Chinese girl in a Caucasian family. With my adoption into this family, my experiences have been shaped and molded to include a life that could never have been imagined in my birth country.
When I was placed in the foster care system I had an ideology that getting to know people was the best way to avoid conflict and to help them and help myself. Unfortunately, this theory did not work in my first foster home for many reasons. However, when I was moved to South Central, I applied this theory and it worked. The first day I arrived to my new home I set to fix my broken drawer. I applied past knowledge to fix it.
Baby Project This past weekend I embarked on a journey, and no probably not the journey you think of. This weekend I had to take home the Real Care Baby project. Going into this project I was not really quite sure what to expect.
All I can say is that nothing prepared me to become a mother. I had been preparing it for what seemed like ages (approximately nine months), reading different books such as: Making Babies: Stumbling into Motherhood, and The Baby Owner’s Manual. I had also held conversations with my mum, aunties, and even some of my friends about being a mother. Of course, they gave me their different experiences, and how they managed it (Evans & Aronson, 2006). What was interesting was that even though for some, they described it as a disaster, and wished they had done things differently, they remembered the period of being new mothers with nostalgia.
I don’t remember when I first heard the events of my arrival, but there were clues. The little patches on my head from drawing blood and the long scar on my hernia, told the story of my earliest months. The fact that I was “a miracle” seemed to follow me around for a long time. Relatives adored on me and gave me gifts “just because.” Even my middle school teachers knew that I was a premature baby.
I was born in Northwest China, in the province of Jiang Xi. Eighteen years ago, my parents had decided to adopt from China after finding out they were unable to have children of their own. After researching about adoption agencies, they found an agency in Texas. Gladney Center for Adoption, forwarded my parents information on two twin girls that needed a family. It was love at first sight and they planned their trip.
Before iI was adopted I was treated like crap. I was abused and was stuck in my room all the time. I could not come out. I was miserable. I would run away because I was afraid, but end up always getting caught by the police and put back in the home.
I have had many good times in my life to write about, but one of the best was when I got my puppy. It was sudden when my parents told me that I could get a puppy. I was all smiles when I was able to bring her home. It was funny to watch her interact with my other animals and wonder what they were. Getting my puppy was a good time.
I still remember July 31, 2015 like it was yesterday. I was lying in bed at five in the morning, contemplating the day I had ahead of me on a warm summer morning. Hearing a knock on my bedroom door, my mom walked in and whispered that she was leaving for the hospital with my dad. All I could manage to do was hug her. My mom was scheduled to be induced to have my youngest brother, Andrew.
I can still remember like it was yesterday the day my son was born. The feelings leading up to the day he was born were the most nerve racking days of my life. On August 27th 2015 me and my wife sat at home expecting the our son any moment. My mother was also with us and was there to help us after the baby was born. As the day went by the house filed with boredom and the feeling of nervousness, and outside being gray and rainy I knew that it wasn 't a beach day.
I have a high pain tolerance, so it took all day for me to start feeling my contractions and I eventually needed an epidural. Thirty-six hours later I was fully dilated, and it was time to start pushing. The doctors gave me the option to watch myself give birth and I did so with my mom, my boyfriend, and his mom by my side at 3:35 PM my son was born and fully healthy thank god. My son is five and a half months old now. He is my motivation, a big reason why I’m getting my diploma.
Then 9 months later on February 16, 1999, at 3:10 am my precious son came out of my womb and placed on my chest. It was the most amazing experience ever, but also extremely exhausting thing ever! I was in the hospital for about another week till the doctor told me to go home, funny thing is that I got discharged on my birthday February 21, 1999, which I turned 16. At first, it felt like being a mother was easy, but in reality, it wasn 't because I also had to go to school plus he would always wake me up in the middle of the night, and be in an extreme of exhaustion. I started missing school more and more till I finally dropped out.
