I was a sophomore at Galileo High in San Francisco, and all my Caucasian friends agreed: I was about as Chinese as they were”. I felt disappointed with one of the daughters’ formally denying her heritage. Since the story was set in the late 1980’s. Society then was less diverse than recently. And trying to find yourself in a prominently European environment.
They told me grief is the price you pay for love, and here I am now dealing with her death. I guess everybody has passed though this phase sometime during their life but why me? Myrtle cheated on me, she took it too far. Though I kind of doubted it, I felt like she was not the Myrtle I first met. I remember when I met her for the first time, she was kind and adoring.
Growing up in America she took on American customs that her very Chinese mother disapproved of. Waverly lives a very Americanized lifestyle. “When you go to China, I told her, you don’t even need to open your mouth. They already know you are an outsider.”(Tan288) Waverly lives with her white fiancé Rich, gets her hair done at a salon frequently, and spoke very little Chinese.
Jing-Mei then decides to reunite with her sisters in China, anxiously stating, “I lay awake thinking about my mother’s story, realizing how much I have never known about her, grieving that my sisters and I had both lost her“ (271). At this point in the story, it becomes evident Jing-Mei no longer despises her mother for her distasteful tendencies. Instead, she aspires to see her mother one last time. Remorseful of her incapacity to connect with her mother on a deeper level, Jing-Mei feels inept to fill in for her mother at the mahjong table.
“The front door must never line up with the back door, or you will never be able to save money” said my mother as she was giving me life advice and tips on buying a house. Irrational superstitions are passed down in each culture regardless of the absurdity, yet they continue to live on dutifully. Some of these traditions and superstitions alter core life decisions, for they seem so dependable. Asians are known for their particular superstitions because each action and movement may have some unnatural/spiritual explanation. For example, the Chinese would use horoscopes in order to measure one’s compatibility with another.
It all changed when Ted Lavender died in front of him when he was daydreaming about her. Since then, he decided to forget about her for the sake of his duty and for his self-conscience. “ … But I reminded himself that my obligation was not to be loved but to lead… and because I realized she did not loved me and never would.” That day he burned everything, all the letters and photographs, but still that feeling never went away. Today he carries another photo of her, a recent one, in his
Cultural experiences shape the way people see and understand the world around them, and the two cultural experiences which most powerfully shape people’s perspectives on life are family and societal norms. Family is a powerful influence; one’s upbringing can shape their worldviews for years to come. Since no two families are exactly alike, no perspectives can be precisely identical. One significant role that family plays is its shaping of marital traditions. In The Joy Luck Club, Lindo Jong’s rural Chinese family depends on a matchmaker to find “the best marriage combination” for their daughter (Tan 50).
When I was growing up, I never truly witnessed a “functional” marriage like that of one you might see in movie. I never saw my parents hug, kiss, hold hands, or say “I love you” to one another. However, I do not want to give the impression that my parents did not provide an exceptional upbringing for me and my brother. We had home cooked meals every night, my father read to me before bed when he was home, and we celebrated every holiday with the whole family at our house.
I have no qualms telling others that I was left on the side of a dirt road as a newborn baby. For many in the United States, the image is appalling. However, for most adopted Chinese-Americans it’s a harsh reality. Growing up I had the disadvantage of balancing between two cultures: the one I was born into, and the one I grew up in.
Smoke, sickness, and no shelter are all things that a soldier would not want to see; Valley Forge is something no one would have ever wanted to see. I have been fighting for nine months and my mother is dying; I will not be re-enlisting. Would you have re-enlisted or quit fighting for yourself and/or others. The reasons I am not going to re-enlist are because of death and illness, harsh conditions, and lack of support and supplies. First of all, I am not going to re-enlist because of death and illness.
Upon meeting me, not many people know that I am a first generation American. However, they are usually interested in the orgin of my last name. I am in fact Ukranian. Both my parents and my older sister were born in Ukraine. They immigrated to America in 1992 because of religious persecution that they were facing.
I wasn’t sure if I wanted to leave…. I grew up here for nine years since I was a baby, but the feeling of me leaving didn’t feel right. I didn’t really know what to utter to my dad I didn’t want to go. Jamaica was fun living their having childhood memories was the best and leaving them behind was never my idea. I remember when my dad left New York to come to Jamaica to prepare my paperwork….when we were standing in line