Its very true we see masculinity as a violent trait that has kinda damaged the sense of any emotional connection of
Many boys grow up to be just like their fathers, and we are still living like we were in the 1950’s. In the short story, How Boys Become Men, Katz explains what it was like to grow up in the 1990’s and how growing up molds boys into being a man. Throughout the story he shows many examples of events that happened through his life that molded him into a man that he is today. Many boys go through life with things happening like in Katz’s life. Katz says that specific events lead to how boys grow into how many really are, they solve issues with physical violence, barely any emotional response, and having to act strong.
The Mask You Live In begins with a George Orwell quote "He wears a mask and his face grows to fit it". The use of this quote in the documentary is to explain how men and young boys create a façade in which they live their lives behind. They put on a show for the world, while living behind this falsely created persona of happiness and security. The mask is the hard shell that young men are expected to face the world with. They are expected to show only their best selves and hide their insecurities and worries.
History has repeatedly given men privilege due to their physical advantages; yet it is these same advantages that have developed into “rules” or expectations that all men should conform to in order to prove their manhood. Michael Kimmel’s essay, “‘Bros Before Hos': The Guy Code” outlines the “rules” where men are expected to never show any emotions, be brave, act knowledgeable, be risk takers, be in control, act reliable, and be competitive, otherwise they would be showing weakness which is analogous to women. It is humiliating that men associate weakness with women; they should focus on the potential of the individual rather than their gender. Most insults toward men attack their masculinity because society finds it shameful for men to be
In “The Boys Are Not All Right” by Michael Ian Black, the author uses different powers of persuasion to convince the audience to succumb to his opinion that men today don’t know how to properly express their feelings because of cultural norms that expressing your feelings is associated with weakness and femininity. He starts the article by drawing on the fact that almost all mass shootings have been committed by men. He says that men tend to lash out in anger because they don’t know how to properly express their feelings. He attempts to persuade his reader to start a conversation on how to make it more acceptable in society for men to express their emotions in a way that doesn’t potentially hurt others.
All my "feminine" words are untouchable, palpable, and intangible things. For instance, laughter is a feminine word. We are unable to touch laughter even though we can hear and feel it. History is also a feminine word. It is written down on the paper; it is spread from mouth to mouth. But we still can 't catch it or touch it. Umbrella and diamond are two of all my "masculine" words. We are not only able to see these two objects but also able to hold them. We can put hands on these objects in any way.
Every woman has her own responsibilities in society in which men are still considered the strongest. Although women’s lifes are more difficult than men’s life. A woman has to take care of her work, her personal life, her kids, and her husband. On the other side, men have to work and pay bills. In addition, men don 't have to cook, clean and be responsible for kids. This illustrates how men don 't have much responsibility but are still considered the strongest in society. Lastly, many womens are victimized by men, because of the way men treats women. I also feel that this is still happening until now because a lot of womens are still controlled by
Social mores are those unwritten rules that dictate how we act in public. They are the things that irritate the general public, like when a person is walking on the “wrong side” of the sidewalk. No law governs which side a person should use, but society expects that one would use the same as what they would drive. If a person enters an elevator and faces the back rather than the front, not only will it make others uncomfortable, but it will be uncomfortable for that person as well. In a similar fashion, attempting to go against the socially expected behaviors for one’s gender is uncomfortable to the point of avoidance. Schmitt explains, “whatever the differences in men's and women's psyches—empathy, jealousy, cognitive abilities, mate preferences—many theories in psychology assume that they result primarily from direct gender socialization by parents, media, and societal institutions” (92). The way society expects the different genders to appropriate to current cultural standards and norms truly affects how people handle the stress in their lives.
More often than not, society compels us to behave like genders we are not. For instance, when faced with challenges like finance, family issues and education, women are expected to be exceptionally strong. Likewise, when men are confronted with sensitive issues they are not expected to openly show their emotions like women. Some jobs description requires female
No woman is allowed to be angry. This is the message that is subliminally delivered by those who tend to accuse the anger of a woman as a played-out weapon. For far too long has the
In other words, emotions can either be good or bad. I feel that this is something that should be avoid because, when we refer to certain emotions as good or bad, we develop this concept that it is right or wrong to feel a certain way. This may result in some individuals feeling ashamed to feel “bad.” We have created a society where you force positivity upon people and shame those that are not positive. In doing this, we create a strict environment that fails to consider the diversity in emotion. In addition, if a person feels ashamed of their unhappiness, then they may be afraid to share their feelings. If one is afraid to discuss their feelings, then they may never seek help if they need it. In a way, our society has stigmatized negative emotions. This stigma has also resulted in the notion that it is looked down upon to seek therapy and counseling. Instead of enforcing the categorization of our emotions, we should learn to openly accept that all emotions are natural. There is nothing wrong with feeling sad, mad, or stressed. These are normal responses to our environment. In fact, it would be abnormal to never experience these emotions. Our emotions are not what should define us or be judged. Instead, our actions or coping methods should represent who we
I’ve always wondered why people with a little or a lot of power tend to treat you unjustly. I’ve experienced many times when people with power treated me poorly. There were times in school with teachers, in school with principles and even out in public places. When I experienced these moments they made me feel like there were something wrong with me or I was different. Also, it made me feel like I was different from others… but not in a good way. I hate when people give me this certain vibe that I don’t belong.
The article “Men Are Stuck in Gender Roles, Data Suggest,” by Emily Reyes explains how drastically different men and women roles are. Reyes goes on to say that women are looked at in a positive light when breaking the norm and showing a more masculine side to themselves, while men, on the other hand, do not get the same reaction when being more feminine. It is a very hypocritical way of thinking since women have been asked to be treated the same way as men. Why can’t men be treated the same way as women and have the same acceptance? In Reyes passage she goes on to say that a professor named Barbara Risman made a point by saying “If girls call themselves tomboys, it’s with a sense of pride. But boys make fun of other boys if they step just a little outside the rigid masculine stereotype.” This type of thinking starts from an early age and goes all the way to adulthood because it has been what society has pinned as the norm for a man to be tough, masculine, and if you aren’t, there must be something wrong with that man.
Why must women go through this? Women have suffered the fate of being held second class by most men for ages. Throughout times women’s rights that have come around and are better, but there are still many trials they must go through today. People watch every day as women get put down by men and even other women at times that say, “that’s just how things are.” When will these types of false accusations based off stereotypes come to an end? Things are slowly changing for the better but there is so much more we could do to help.
I Feel Bad About My Neck and Other Thoughts On Being A Woman is a humorous nonfiction written by Nora Ephron. Nora wrote about the things that she hates and the struggles of being a woman. As she has gotten older in time she has realized that being a woman is not that easy. Being a girl, I liked it because it is something that all women at some point in their lives will be able to relate to and it suggests that women deserve more credit for what they do.