There is a traditional Chinese proverb “百善孝为先” meaning that “filial piety is the most important among hundreds of virtues”. Filial piety is one of the fundamental virtue and primary duty in Asian culture, which means that being good to one’s parents. This idea is often used to guide how children should treat their parents in terms of comforts and welfare. Further, filial piety is a culturally embedded social norm, which allows parents to shape their children’s value, attitudes and behavior (Wang et al. 2010, 22).
Such strict focus on family highly motivates a Chinese for proper behavior. The reason for this is the fact that both success and shame of an individual belong not to her or him, but to the entire family. According to this Confucian idea of a shared face, Chinese families are often overbearing (not only parents, but also grandparents and older siblings can ask improper annoying questions and it is considered as a sincere interest and help). Such family approach has a certain obvious side effect: Chinese view society in terms of insiders and
The importance of grandchildren/offspring can be linked to a contextual element that is crucial to the film, this is Confucianism. Confucius emphasised the fulfilment of duties , ‘Filial piety’ can be anything from simple chores or expectations but for first sons or only sons such as Wai-Tung he has a duty to continue on the family name by producing offspring. It is one of Confucius’ beliefs that your life is unfulfilled if you do not have children and this is a sentiment that is still apparent in China
While both authors discuss parenting, they differ in the way they praise their child, the ways they punish their child, and the manner they speak to the child. Firstly, while both authors discuss parenting, they differ in the way they praise their child. In the article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” Amy Chua says that “When Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you’re good at it” (1). On the other hand, in the article “Mother Inferior” Hanna Rosin says that “I wanted them to be coddled and never to experience hardship” (2). Chua’s way of praising her child is not to praise because it expected to be exceptional in their education.
Parenting is a term and it is the ultimate long-term investment – parenting is the process of actively providing a safe and secure childhood/future for your children. How to raise your child and how to prepare them for their adult life is not something that is universally agreed upon or done the same way around the world. Being a parent is hard and the point is to be good parents for their own children. How to be good parents is different depending on their culture, and Chinese children are not requisite raised the same way as American children. In connection with the set of values used the parenting and education by Chinese parents and American parents have more differences than similarities.
Nature versus nurture—hereditary factors versus the way in which someone is raised—is a long-held debate within the field of psychology. In John Steinbeck’s East of Eden, Lee, a Chinese servant in America, a western society, hails from a lineage which instills the values of their ancestral land throughout his childhood, influencing the way he responds to various situations and relates to other individuals. Although a skilled social interpreter, Lee chooses to defy against societal stigmas of choppy English and a stereotypical Chinese hairstyle, while continuing to practice and recognize the values of his ancestors. Through his comprehensive dedication to cultural studies, Lee encounters a group of Chinese philosophers whom he seeks assistance from in order to solve a task that troubles him: how to define the word timshel. After several years of solitary investigation and two additional years with expert guidance, timshel receives a concise meaning, and Lee begins to share this optimistic and omnipresent principle with those who yearn his advice.
It is the Filipino notion of “Utang na loob”, for our mothers sacrificed even their own wants to keep our families close and comfortable. The mother’s benevolence is usually at a point where we cannot put into words and actions on how to repay her. This act of the mother is expected to be acknowledged by the children forever. But as our parents are expected to work their hardest for our families sake, we as children, are expected to repay them with respect, obedience and care. Our actions are often very limited for we want to keep the good order and reputation of our family to the community.
Filial piety is part of traditional Chinese values derived from Confucian ethos, such as, industry and humbleness, under the background of Chinese society (Matthews, 2000). It is the central concept in Confucianism, which represents ideas about how children should treat their parents in material and emotional way, such as providing support to family members, memorializing ancestors, respect and love your parents. These ideas are generalized to apply authority relationships beyond family (Yeh, & Bedford, 2003). Under the concept of filial piety, individuals’ lives are the continuation of their parents’ physical lives. It treats relationship of father and son as up-and-down relationship between head and feet in human body.
Following the synopsis of Confucius, benevolence means love, kindness, and spirit that someone gives to all people around (especially to family), and he or she has to do right things in the concept of ritual; propriety is the way people show their humanity, which also signifies ethics, awareness, attitudes to preserve and cherish the lifestyle, also ceremonials of nation and society. According to Charles A. Rarick (2007, p.25), people are expected to be good – natured ones with full of humanity, they should have traditionally valued dedication, loyalty and trustworthiness. Furthermore, not only should men perform their most beautiful sides of their souls and minds in their whole lives, but they also need to help other people to do so. As regards ritual, Confucius asserted that propriety existed among people and their behaviors towards each other (the five relationships), such as children had to retain piety for their parents, brothers and sisters had to build close – knit relationships, husbands and wives should love each other, etc. (Nguyen n.d., p.3).