Unhealthy Sense Of Self Esteem

Some of the Determining Factors in Healthy or Unhealthy Sense Self Esteem Unhealthy Sense of Self Esteem: · A child puts himself down, e.g. “I am dumb”, “I am ugly”, “I am too fat or skinny”, “I am too tall or short”

· A child doubts himself, e.g. “I will never learn these spelling words”, “I am not good at sports”, “I cannot dance”

· They doubt that they are worthy of being loved, e.g. “nobody loves me anymore anyway”, “no one cares what I am doing anyway”

· They judge themselves harder than anyone else every could, e.g.” I am not cute”, “my hair is too curly”, “I am not smart enough”

· They can lose their patience over the slightest things, and will give up before giving something a chance, e.g. “I will never be

Healthy Sense of Self Esteem and Confidence:

· Children and adolescent with a healthy sense of self esteem enjoy making friends, and will talk and play well with their peers.

· They blend in well in group situations or do just fine on their own, they are comfortable in their own skin.

· If and when an issue arises, instead of giving up on themselves, a child with a healthy self esteem will accept the situation and seek out a solution. Such as,” I need help with this”, I am not sure about this let me reach out to a friend”.

· A child with a healthy self esteem is an optimistic child, their glass is always on the half full side of the spectrum. This is the child that makes plans ahead of time and then looks forward to them, and the closer it gets to the time the more excited they get.

· A child with a health sense of self esteem is confident in the things that they set out to do. This child takes great pride in the things that they do and then they reach out to friends to help them.

· They are happy more than they are not and they smile a lot, they can make others happy just by being around

Confident parents are the ones that believe in themselves and their ability to be good parents, and therefore have been able to pass this on to their children. Many different factors can affect a child’s life and the way a child perceives them self. Well loved children that were raised in stable home seem to have a better set of social skills and appear to be happier children. While at the same time children in neglectful situations, children of broken homes, and most definitely children that have been involved in any form of abuse situations feel the negativity and respond accordingly.

There is an abundance of ways to boost a child’s self esteem, and quiet a few ways to stay closely involved in your child’s life as they get older.

· talking to them, not at them and when they talk to you listen and do not be judge mental.

· Always reassure your child that there is nothing that they cannot confide in you about, you will not judge them but instead you will try to help them resolve the issue.

· Try to eat as many family meals together as possible, it is a great time to talk about everyone’s day and to just have some good ole fashioned family bonding