Assertiveness Training Research Paper

Personal and Interpersonal development of the counselling
Session no: 8
Session topic: Assertiveness Training
Date: 23.09.15
Introduction
Assertiveness means standing up for your personal rights - expressing thoughts, feelings and beliefs in direct, honest and appropriate ways. By being assertive we should always respect the thoughts, feelings and beliefs of other people.
It is a skill that is regularly denoted in social and communication skills training. It also means that standing for our own right’s without being either aggressive or passively accepting ‘wrong’. Assertive individuals can get their messages or viewpoints conveyed without hurting others or becoming hurt themselves. They respect the feelings, thoughts and beliefs of others

From time to time everyone acts in a passive and aggressive ways, an individual responds in such a way often because he/she has low self-confidence and therefore they use inappropriate ways of interacting with others.
Difference between Assertive, Passive, Aggressive and Manipulator.
Assertive behavior- People with this type of behavior are born with high self-esteem. It is the most effective and healthiest way of communicating. Assertive people are confident enough to convey their messages without playing games or manipulating. They know their limits and do not allow anyone to push them beyond that because of someone else wants or needs.
Assertiveness is equally important at work as at home because if one becomes known as a person who cannot say no, one will be loaded up with tasks by his/her colleagues and managers, and one could even make yourself ill.

Behavioral

Although the training was introduced by Andrew Salter (1961) but was popularized by Joseph Wolpe. He believed that an individual cannot be both assertive and anxious at the same time, thus being assertive would inhibit anxiety. The aim of assertiveness training include:
• Helps to increase awareness of personal rights
• Helps to differentiate between non-assertiveness and assertiveness
• Helps to differentiate between aggressive, passive and manipulative
• Helps to learn both verbal and non-verbal assertiveness skills.

Procedure
The facilitator provided us with a sheet , on that 10 questions were given and we had to give assertive response to it. Questions were as follows:-
1. “you are wrong’
2. “You little brat”
3. “You better start paying attention.”
4. “You are living down to your reputation.”
5. “You are doing it all wrong.”
6. “You are so clumpsy.”
7. “Don’t act like a