Marriage: The Importance Of Premarriage Counseling

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For as long as I can remember, I have been hearing the statistic that fifty percent of marriages end in divorce. Although that statistic may or may not be true, when I look at all of the marriages around me that have failed, I can believe it. My parents are one of those marriages that I have watched unravel and fall apart. I also remember reading that a big predictor of your own marriage success rate is your parent’s marital status. If your parents have a successful marriage, then you are more likely to also have one. However, if your parents are divorced, then it is significantly more likely that your marriage will also fail. Hearing these two facts has somewhat made me terrified to get married. I have seen how horrible it is to go …show more content…

They may feel like their relationship is not as strong as it should be or they are having distress in their relationship. They may not be confident that their relationship will be able to last through marriage. There also may be certain issues or topics that they do not agree on such as finances or raising a family. It would be helpful for the couple to attend to these issues before getting married. Couples that seek out premarriage counseling may also have specific goals they would like to achieve from the counseling sessions. They may want to develop skills like communication, problem solving, or decision making, or explore marriage expectations, roles, and beliefs with their partner. The couple may feel like they first need to work on their relationship to make it stronger before they are confident that marriage will work for their relationship (Smith, …show more content…

Solution focused counseling is very brief, where couples receive an average of four hours of treatment cumulatively. This theory believes that the client constructs meanings about their experiences, relationships, and future plans, but they sometimes do not perceive the facts. Problems then stem from the differing perceptions of the individuals in the relationship. Working with the counselor, the couple tries to develop an idea for their future marriage collectively. Counselors help the clients use the resources they already personally have to help the couple move toward their idea of their future marriage together (Murray & Murray,

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