The Birth Order Effect Many scientists and psychologists believe that the chronological order of births in a family can influence each person’s personality, due to the environment they are raised in. The birth order theory divides the children in the family as being first-born, the middle child, last born, and an only child, and each of these categories has many character traits established. For example, middle children are usually considered to be good negotiators because they have dealt with the oldest and youngest siblings fighting all of their life. This study also has its exceptions.
Sometimes, parents tend to lose their motivation, attention, and balance that leads to giving up in their situation slowly. But still, they should not lose hope and will never do that. However, the author includes that parents should not try comparing their children, but sometimes it is hard not to notice how different the children are to their typical peers. As stated by Seth Meyers, Psy. D, (2013), having a special needs child brings many of the advantages and usual joys of parenting.
The author could have easily used a more positive word – easier, instead. If a task is harder than another task, by definition, the other task must be easier. The first half of the article title, “Boys vs. Girls”, presents raising children as a competition, with one sex triumphing over the other. The author declares the “winner” in each category by declaring who is harder. The author maintains that in each category, gender differentiations present at birth is the primary cause of many behaviors in a child’s
In my opinion, process of raising child and effects of culture are determinant in sharing the roles other than biological factors which are not able to directly influence the gender development in human-beings. Even before the birth, both females and males have a strong connection with their mothers. They begin to learn new things from their mothers since the day they open their eyes to the world. Therefore, mother’s behaviors towards their children play a crucial role to shape child’s interests and acts.
But, that encourages my next point about parents. Since it is your parent’s personality, they should see you going in the defective path. If you are slacking in school or at home; they should correct you and tell you not to be like them and to excel and adjust your performance. Not only should they just talk to you, they should fix their personalities also. For example, maybe they are always late to work or they curse too much, though these are negligible traits, they demonstrate an misguides on the child ,who will start to think this behavior is acceptable and start to pick up on it.
Baurmind (1991) highlighted that authoritarian parents tend to be demanding and directive but are not responsive enough to their children’s needs. They tend to exercise authority and control by demanding unquestioning obedience. They often fail to explain the reasoning for the rules. Thus, children might feel detached as the parents express little warmth, discourage verbal give-and-take and demand adherence to high standards. Miller (2010) conjectured that children who grow up under authoritarian parenting styles often experience long term emotional consequences.
According to the research of Alfred Adler, who was also the founder of individual psychology and the second child in his family, the birth order of a child is the predictor of his future characteristics and peculiarities. Adler believed that the true reason for such differences between siblings is
Every culture has different guidelines about what is suitable for males and females and family members may socialize babies in gendered ways without consciously following that path. For example, in a modern society, the colour pink is associated with girls and the colour blue with boys. Even as tiny babies, boys and girls are dressed differently according to what is considered ‘appropriate’ to the respective sexes. Even parents who strive to achieve a less ‘gendered’ parenting style unconsciously reinforce gender roles. A family structure acts as the most important agent of gender socialization for children and adolescents as it serves as the centre of a child’s life.
As mentioned above, initiative is a great quality that a person must have in order to have a successful like both in schooling and in real life. This stage is also important in the child’s future relationships with authority. During the phallic stage, (3 to 6 years): the primary focus of the libido is on the genitals. At this age, children also begin to discover the differences between males and females (Ellis 2008).
This would lead the child to think that it is fine to fight with others because their parents do
If one does not have a strong bond or attachment with their parental figure or main caregiver, negative side effects are more than likely to occur (Dujardin et al., 2014; Gautheir et al., 2004; Hoeve et al., 2012; Taylor & McQuillan, 2014; Whelan, 2003). When attention and reinforcement for behaviors is suddenly discontinued, youths will seek out ways to recapture the attention, often times resorting to noticeably negative behaviors due to associating them with attention and their attachment to their parent (Bowlby, 1980; Dujardin et al., 2014). Studies have found that if an individual is constantly dislocated via removal and placement in foster care, shelter care, or a group home, in addition to lacking any sense of consistency and stability, they will have a hard time developing an attachment with their caregivers, if one is developed at all (Dujardin et al., 2014; Whelan, 2003), causing harmful behaviors to likely ensue (Amatya, & Barzman, 2012; Dujardin et al., 2014;
9.) Normative age-graded influences have strong correlation with age. This is where children transition from one setting to another based on age. An example would be transitioning from elementary school to middle school. Where middle school is less structured than elementary school and more complex.
As children grow up into adults, middle school education plays a significant role in developing teenagers’ cognition. During this period, both boys and girls need attention, encouragement, and recognition. However, gender bias in education has historically been a common phenomenon. For example, girls in the class receive less attention from teachers than boys. An in-depth analysis from Peggy Orenstein’s “The Daily Grind: Lessons in the Hidden Curriculum” and Karen Stabiner’s “
Middle school is often portrayed as the not-fun years of school because kids are going through so many changes. The middle school years are very important because of these changes. Without the proper institution to guide them through these changes, students may make poor decisions. That’s why I believe my experience at Central York Middle School has been imperative to my academic success. One important thing for a middle school to do is to create a fun and friendly environment for learning.