Neither any corrective action was taken to tackle it, nor did the managers stand out to challenge this behavior. Indeed, although a few managers who did get their jobs done efficiently, the majority failed to deliver their work in a satisfactory manner. Lastly, it is necessary to boost the morale in this work place. People ought to pay attention on ethic codes and show respect on this part. While Susan attempted to report the problem, she was afraid of possible negative reaction from her fellow colleagues – they might have frowned on her and made her difficult to continue to work there.
Traumatized, she wanted to protect her daughter from the severe mental pain of forbidden love and did so by stopping Pedro from ever becoming an influential figure in Tita’s life. Mama Elena loves all of her children dearly, although she struggles with expressing this love vocally. She never meant to abuse Tita, nor did she ever intentionally try to harm her in any way. She believed that she was doing the right thing, that she was disciplining her child. She only punished Tita out of good intentions, not because she wanted to inflict permanent physical and emotional damage on the young woman.
My mother does not seem to have many emotions that are unacceptable to express towards me as she uses emotional labor to suppress expressions that I shouldn’t be exposed to. I often struggle with expressing my emotions to my mother as I consider myself to have a lower emotional intelligence. I also find that when I am upset with her, even if it is something minor like if she parked in the garage poorly so it was hard for me to get in, I ruminate about this small annoyance so much that I become furious with her over nothing and don’t know how to express it. Something that influences, specifically hinders, the ability for my mother and I to express emotions is the fact the my younger sister is what we call a “big ears”. So, that being said, sometimes me and my mother want to talk about “adult issues” that a twelve year old shouldn’t hear, but we can’t because she seems to always be listening in.
Ruth was starting to feel that Art wasn’t appreciating her enough while Art tells Ruth that she never accepts help offers from anyone and makes her life harder than it is. When she has countless amounts of errands to run, she never asks for anyone’s help. She always depends on herself, spending more time for work than her love life. She wondered whether Art still loved her or not, but she did not this this situation seriously, as “she wasn’t the type of to get into conflict over things that were ultimately not that important” (Tan 49). She never discussed her struggles to maintain everything by herself to Art.
More proof of her empathetic and caring personality is shown when the novel unravels the relationship between her and Tommy D, which over time grows stronger as the story continuous, where she seems to be the only one caring about Tommy even though Tommy is basically bullied at Hailsham for being such an aggressive and odd person. But even though we see her as caring and empathetic she does somehow show a sign of being a passive person as shown in the sentence “I thought sooner or later someone would start saying it had gone too far, but it just kept on, and no one said anything.” (chapter 2) referring to the bullying of Tommy. The same kind of passivity is shown later on in the novel when Tommy, Ruth and Kathy are at the cottages where they discuss Tommy 's drawings. Ruth tells Tommy that the drawings are ridiculous and basically a waste
“I feel beautiful when I'm at peace with myself. When I'm serene, when I'm a good person, when I've been considerate of others.” Elle Macpherson No one is born considerate. You have to practice over time, but sometimes people get a little nudge. In the beginning Mom didn’t notice she was being selfish, but it started affecting her relationships.
Sometimes, “a focus on the patient’s autobiography silences all other members in her family” and this can be as spontaneous as dangerous. Not only the risk of absorbing a single point of view implies the loss of important features that can come from others’ stories, but absolutizing one’s perspective is not fruitful in a strict sense. Of course, the patient knows better than others what she is going through, but her opinion might also be blurred by many other feelings, motives, and desires. For instance, the desire to make a good impression and “trying to be a good patient” in the doctor’s eyes, and to her family and closest friends. Sometimes, this is the last chance they feel they have “to do a good job” and perform well.
That being said, I believe it is acceptable and also somewhat necessary to be deceptive in this relationship. I say somewhat necessary because as an older sister, I feel it is my job to “shield” her from things in my life since my experiences are different than her. The interesting thing about this relationship is I would not consider it to be acceptable to deceive me. Since she is only 12 she does not really have much to hide from anyone I don’t believe she deceives me much if at all. I do believe she white lies to me sometimes.
During the abuse period, she only surface level friendships as she did not trust anyone and she could not share herself wholly with anyone. However, she did manage to maintain positive relationships with her family members, which helped her cope. As an adult looking back she said, “It made me stronger as a person, it confirmed my faith, it taught me empathy for others - what they may be going through and not to judge”. She also explained lasing negative affects, “I do not trust people with my inmost thoughts. I am always on guard, not willing to fully share, as a result I probably have passed that on to my children.
Most of the time, teenagers do not have a sense of security and afraid lose the affection from their parent after their parent got the divorce. Therefore, Ada can try to tell herself some positive internal dialogues, for example, "Do not blame parents for their behaviour, although they have already separated, they still love me very much." or "Although we no longer live together, their still spend lots of time to care about me.". Last, if Ada can use the positive self-talk continuously, it can easily for her to develop the self-leadership which can change the interpretation of the stress from being negative to being positive by her thought