Students not being used to freedom, for example, causes them to not be prepared for the over amount of freedom given during college. This leads kids to put off homework, not go to class, and other bad habits because they are not used to managing their time. These habits can lead to an unsuccessful college carrer, eventually leading to dropping out. A second example at the meso level is students getting caught up in partying on the weekends or even during the week. For a lot of students, being away from their parents means absolute freedom to do whatever they want, allowing a lot of young adults to “go crazy” in the partying scene.
Throughout all of my years at school, I have been constantly reminded by my parents that I must do my very best in school so that my college will be paid for, because they wouldn’t have enough money to put me through. The ASPMA Scholarship would mean a lot to me as it would help me greatly and enhance my college experience by allowing me to have the highest possible grades, help me grow into an involved, more social person, and relieve some stress that inevitably comes to every college student. Since I would rather not assume student loans during college, I must work if my scholarships don’t cover all of my school expenses. The more I work, the less time I will have to study, and the more stressed out I will be. I believe the ASPMA Scholarship will help me to have the best grades possible because with more funds, I will have to work less, giving me more time to study and less scenarios to worry about.
I do not that not let any setbacks or obstacles interfere with my education. I have maintain a 3.7 GPA despite of my after school job during my junior year. My mom told me during my tenth grade year that my junior year was going to either make me or break me. She explained I had to be really on top of my studies and I had no room for small mistakes.
That was until, I saw that my parents were struggling financially and then filed for a divorce. Every time things got hard, both my mom and dad would tell me to “Focus, take school serious so that you can be successful and help us in the future”. Those words were my call to adventure. That was my motivation, that made me graduate high school and enroll myself at College of Saint Elizabeth. I decided to attend college because I knew that, that would make my parents happy.
As I look back on my journey to college, I faced many different problems and disadvantages even before taking my first steps on campus. In Linda Banks-Santilli’s “Guilt is one of the biggest struggles first-generation college students face” many first generation students view being the first one in the family as a major flaw before entering college (Banks-Santilli, 2015, Par. 4 &7). The lack of self-respect makes it difficult for students to achieve success without help or motivation. The students have to change their viewpoint about being the first to go to college in their family as a weakness and make it a strength to help motivate them to be better students.
I want to tell you a story about something else. A real life lesson that I learned in school, something truly beneficial to my future. My senior year of high school taught me many things, however nothing compared to what I learned when I hit rock bottom that year. My second semester of school I decided that because I already knew where I was going to college I didn’t have to try as hard in school and work as hard for my grades as I had before.
Did you know that depending on the sport, students who play sports in college most likely have less than a 2% chance of becoming professional athletes? At middle schools, high schools and colleges across the country, everyone is arguing over whether or not students with failing grades should be allowed to play sports. In my opinion, a good education is so very important for our country’s youth, especially the athletes. Not a lot of kids are good enough to play in the top college sports programs in the country. But even those who are, still have an astonishingly low chance at making the professional leagues.
Going to college as a first-generation student does worry me about fitting in and succeeding at college. Since I am the first to attend college I am carrying a lot of weight on my shoulders right now. Not only am I doing this for myself, but making my family proud plays a big major in my life because I will be the first person to start a new life for my generation. I am worried because I am scared of not being able to fit in with my classmates due to the different backgrounds or lifestyles. Being part of the minority group can also affect me since usually people view us differently.
I also learnt that the friends you entered high school with wouldn’t necessarily be the ones you were hugging on the last day. I had genuinely thought that the people I considered to be my best friends in Grade Nine would still be my best friends when we said goodbye to the beige brick walls that is Beaulieu College. However, I was completely wrong. I was so fixated into being friends with everyone that I didn’t choose my friends
Some families are performance oriented and so demanding that you have to do well in class, get a good grade and hence get a nice job. This pressure is one of the most dangerous of all since the student will not be having someone to run to when things get tough and hence being a big-time pressure to the college student. Peer pressure. It is said we do not choose family, but we choose friends.
Growing up, my parents pushed me to do my best in school; I didn’t question it much, although looking back, I recognize that schooling is a vital component to be successful in life. I will be attending UNR this fall, the first in my family to do so. Being a first generation college student, my parents cannot provide any information regarding college classes, scholarships, or tutoring. I’ve worked diligently throughout high school but I cannot venture into college blind; TRiO would be a highly beneficial program enabling me to reach my potential in college.
When I started Unity High School I thought that it was going to be boring school because my first choice was Skyline but my mom made me come to this school so I had to obey what my mom wants because she takes care of me and helps me with whatever I need help with so going to the school that she wanted me to go to was the least I could have done. I thought that high school was going to be difficult because the work that my brother would bring home when he was in high school looked really hard and I did not understand most of the work he needed to complete. But I realized that I need to be taught the material before I go on and do the work
With that being said, my mid-term goal would be to complete the medical assistant program at Kaplan on the Deans list. I was never one who cared about there grades. In high school, my parents moved me from Arizona to Iowa and to get back at them I thought it would be a good idea to not try in school. So getting on the Deans list the first term of Kaplan surprised my family and I! I want to show them I can do it all through Kaplan.
My parents struggled and they still do today, to support themselves while supporting me and giving me a life they deem necessary for my success in the future. It is very difficult to find a job and be happy without a high school diploma and a college degree in a society like ours today in America. My dad doesn’t like his current job but it’s better than nothing and is enough to support our family, fortunately. My mom has been unemployed throughout my life.
Transitioning from high school to college has many hardships; however, my most difficult struggle is mentally realizing that I am now an actual college student who cannot have any faults. Back in high school, I was able to study lightheartedly because there was no money involved, and second chances were offered on assessments. In present time, I have to do well on an exam the first time it is given with the mindset of fulfilling the expectations of my scholarship donors and others. Since I am not the biggest fan of my major, I miss the high school version of Heather who was able to dream and imagine where she would be after graduating. My distress is realizing that the people I shared my interests to have gained and is out accomplishing them