It is always best if you really get to know somebody before you judge them. Things that you might see someone do, might be completely be different than what they actually do on a daily basis. Just like Mr. Oakhurst, that one person that you might be judging, probably has a friendly and caring side that you just won’t give them a chance to show. Ambiguity is in everyone, and people seem to judge on the bad interpretation than the actually bigger and better side that people really have. This story should teach all that reads it a lesson to not take first interpretations serious, and stick around to see the good side that is really
“A moment of silence is often helpful for the client to dive into his emotions and think about a specific topic or circumstances.” From what I have practiced this statement is correct but it is very difficult to accomplish this as a new coach. This might happen to me because of being nervous and doubtful of my own level of ability for coaching. I feel that I can have a tendency to talk and try and assume what the coachee must feel when I am nervous or to just fill a void of silence. I tried to stick to the model this occasionally I felt like the model was restricting the conversation. This model is best utilized with a light touch and as a source of perspective should you get stuck.
There are several quotes included in this notebook that focus on resilience. For me, I myself find that quotes also help me when I feel like I want to give up. They’re inspirational and make people feel a lot better and sometimes they even make then want to pursue what they want or need and to keep going. It could make them realise that the the situation they are in right now is not the final destination and that they can change where they are. These quotes are motivational.
What are your strengths and weaknesses in making requests? What could be improved? Requesting my friends or colleagues has never been difficult because I believe that I have the skill to convince people to help me and I also believe that I request only when I consider that it will not be a problem to the other person and I ask them directly if they are not comfortable to tell me so it make them more comfortable with me and there were times when I was told no and always took it easy and that helped me to make more friends. I sometimes very reluctant in requesting people who are new and despite needing their help a lot I take a back step in asking them out of fear of rejection. I need to improve this weakness of mine to be more confident and comfortable with new people.
Neither one of the mind-sets are perfect they both make mistakes. The differences between the two mind-sets have a very wide variety. A fixed mind-set person isn’t very willing to learn because they are afraid they will be judged by their mistakes but someone with a growth min-set is always willing to learn even though they have to correct their mistakes “effort is a positive thing for them.” People with a fixed mind-set also have the tendency to hide their mistakes which often get them in more trouble than they were already in. In my opinion the growth mind-set would be more beneficial to someone because they have more opportunities to learn new things unlike those with the fixed mind-set. I personally have a growth mind-set I’m not the best at fixing my mistakes but I am always willing to
Although perhaps it was not the textbook example of a perception check, I do believe it was a helpful part of the conversation. I think that perception checks are helpful to guide how the conversation will proceed, and this is why I decided to use this skill right at the beginning of the interaction. Following this, I asked the patient if it was acceptable for me to sit next to her and discuss the matter with her. This question, in addition to using the patients name in the beginning of the interaction helped to build trust. I think that without building this trust as a foundation, the conversation is bound to be unproductive.
Effective listening requires that you ask yourself what you and your partner are thinking and feeling. Listening is most difficult when you are being told things that you don’t want to hear. People tend to cut in to reassure themselves that what the other person is saying is not what they really mean; they defend themselves and sometimes they even start attacking the other person. Effective listening requires that you listen attentively, compassionately and uncritically so as to allow room for your partner to trust you enough to talk about his/her most intimate thoughts and feelings without the risk of being judged or rejected. Here are some very helpful listening techniques as explained by Relate; the UK’s largest provider of relationship support:- • Forget about yourself: Put aside your own feelings and thoughts and aim to get an idea of what the other person is saying.
People can relate to other people and their emotions. This is why pathos is usually the main rhetoric that is seen. Ethos makes us believe things easily and since most people won't look more into things, it works. Logos appears to our logic which is not very hard if it makes sense. They can also give us a visual and our eyes will take care of that.
He also states that the relevance and usefulness of Interpersonal Communication to his career choice help because it allows him to communicate with others well and interact with the people around him to engage with others productively on a different level.This can also help when you need to trust others. I asked Matthew if he trusted anyone. His thoughts on this were like every person you meet at first. He stated that he does, but he needs to interact with a person to see if he can trust the person. He argues that when people get to know your secret you may never know if they go and tell others about it and if they do, it would be hard to even trust the person at all.