Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior Some people might argue that a child’s upbringing forms the child’s foundation of life. It forms the child’s identity and its view of life. The upbringing of children is a wide concept because it is never the same. The question is if there is an edge between upbringing and torture. The intention of upbringing is indisputable – you want your child to have a great life and a great future, but perchance certain ways of educating children can cause more damage than good.
The high expectations immigrant families place on their children is still a very relevant social issue and can be witnessed throughout the United States. In this short story, we witness how a parent’s good intentions can ultimately lead to the destruction of their child’s motivation. The road to prodigy all began when Jing-Mei’s mother desired her to be a “Chinese Shirley Temple” (Tan). After the countless movies watched and the failed trip to the beauty school, that dream came to an end as quickly as it had started. This however, opened the door to many more tests of trial and error.
Most parents only want what is best for their children, so naturally they will have high expectations for them. Most parents believe that when their children meets their high standards they will become successful in their life. In the short story, Two Kinds by Amy Tan, it talks about a girl named Jing-mei and her family who moved to America from China to pursue a better life. But many conflicts begin to arise when Jing-mei’s parents starts to have high expectations for Jing-mei. The parent’s high expectations in the short story can be compared to real life.
In the essay Mother Tongue by Amy Tan she speaks about how is was when she was growing up. That it was difficult for her to deal with her mother's "fractured English" but, has she grew older she became more proud of her broken way of speaking. She realized that there was nothing wrong with the way her mother spoke and that her mother wasn't different than any other American just because of how she speaks. I think that Tans' main point is very enlightening and should be shared with others. You shouldn't judge a person based on how they sound.
So, while having a boyfriend/girlfriend is also one significant social tie in American people’s eyes, no one would be angry about children if they decide to have a boyfriend/girlfriend. In other words, American parents engage in the cultural process of normalization, regarding puppy love as “a process of becoming physically and emotionally ready…” (Schalet, 17). However, in contrast to normalization, Chinese parents are involved in the process of dramatization on the issue of puppy love. In China, high school students are under huge pressure because of academic studies. In order to get into a good university, students must study hard in their high school years.
First, in child beauty contest, beauty is important thing, so usually, mothers have strong rights to speak about it. On the other hand, in entrance exam, mostly both parents say their opinion to children. Second, most children do not have to, and also, although they want to, it is very difficult to attend child beauty contest. So almost every child live without thinking about beauty contest. On the other hand, many children have to have entrance exam, and most children have to study whether they have entrance exam or not.
However, Amy Tan did not get rid of the Chinese culture, because she was mentally and physically attached to Chinese-American culture. In addition, the Chinese- American put a great emphasis on the education, which they supported their children to be noble, intelligent and successful. For example, June in The Joy Luck Club learning the piano patently illustrated the expectations and importance of education. Amy Tan became the most influential Chinese-American because “I think I 've always been somebody, since the deaths of my father and brother, who was afraid to hope. So, I was more prepared for failure and for rejection than for success.” She was strongly impacted by her families, academic fields and the Chinese-American culture.
Therefore, studies show that grades serve as being a positive incentive in the lives of students. Students are motivated by the incentive of receiving a good grade before handing in any assignment or while writing a test. Grades are so powerful that they judge a student’s standpoint academically and function as whether or not a student can get scholarship. A questionnaire done by Emil Stan for International Conference on Education and Educational Psychology, concluded that 60% teachers said that students were motivated by grades so that they learn. Whereas, 38% [of teachers] said no students are not motivated by grades and the other 2% had answers such as often no and sometimes yes (Educational Leadership: New Roles, New Relationships: Where).
Developmental education has good impact for students study in the beginning of their college life, but it does not have long term for students (Karp et al., 2012) because schools only allow students to take English and math classes in developmental education. Therefore, every student have enough basic knowledge about math and English, so in the beginning of college life, those math and English are very easy for the students, and students could get good grades in those class. However, after they begin to take the major, the major courses are more complex than math and English class, so developmental education loss the effect. Therefore, Students will have very hard time to deal with the major courses. For example, even if I got A for my math class, I think accounting class is very hard for me because it is more complex than math.
The American free public education system has been and will continue to be an amazing asset for so many of America’s young minds. The ever progressing school system has evolved to fit the modern challenges of the educational world, however, it has fallen short of creating enough opportunities for career-focused education as well as life skills that will be important to life outside the classroom. The current American educational system does not prepare students to be successful adults; by putting an overbearing amount of pressure on attending universities it neglects to provide the routes necessary for students to work towards vocational careers. Prior to reading this essay, there are two terms that must be understood, liberal and vocational education. The term liberal education is defined by 31-year educator Bill Ryan as, “...an approach that encourages a broad and diverse exposure to