Although perhaps it was not the textbook example of a perception check, I do believe it was a helpful part of the conversation. I think that perception checks are helpful to guide how the conversation will proceed, and this is why I decided to use this skill right at the beginning of the interaction. Following this, I asked the patient if it was acceptable for me to sit next to her and discuss the matter with her. This question, in addition to using the patients name in the beginning of the interaction helped to build trust. I think that without building this trust as a foundation, the conversation is bound to be unproductive.
I realize that I honor commitment, and preserve tradition. These are very important to me because it keeps me on track to manage my lifestyle. Moreover, the test has changed my interaction with other because in the initial state of a conversation, I begin to wonder about the person’s personality. This will help me to be very wary, of how I communicate with others because the person might have different preferences. As a result, I respect people’s feeling and care about how they would feel if I say something the wrong way.
Positive language – positive language is about using phrases that show that you are taking responsibility for your actions and that you value people’s opinions and show that you can learn from others Negative language – negative language is using phases like ‘to be honest…’ this shows that you are most likely not an honest person and have lied in the past. Leaving out that ‘to be honest…’ at the start of a sentence makes it more positive’ Active engagement – active engagement is listening to someone but also taking part and asking questions, this more likely to help you to learn and understand something. Sitting there passively will not necessarily help you at
By doing so I point out the discrepancy. In order to be an affective counselor you must have empathy, show that you caring and concern by your behavior. Having good body positions, building rapport, eye contact and great attending skills inspires affective counseling. Failing to doing so can cause the client to feel uncomfortable and not progress. A counselor should try and meet the client in their shoes.
Whilst the theories and beliefs of existentialism and mindfulness are often perceived as being the exact opposite of each other, they are both focused to helping the client move on from difficult time. I.e. these therapies focused on helping the individual self-discover the healing process, leading to improve self-esteem. Both approaches aim to help the client to develop their behaviour and to heal and grow inside as individuals, accepting all the suffering such as fear and sadness and dealing with them; even though their execution is very different in both modalities (Langdridge, 2010, p.1). Existentialism is about acceptance of the fate and face the word with courage and passion.
I can put aside my way of feeling and start to help my troop by being in his shoes or asking questions to get to the root of the problem. If that doesn’t help, then I would help guide him to the right people to get the proper help. Another example is that there are times when I would see another Non-Commissioned Officer (NCO) abuse his power or disregard any type of safety standard just to get a task completed. By understanding emotional flexibility, I can learn to control my anger and approach this individual with a calm demeanor to let him or her know that what they are doing is wrong. That way, the individual doesn’t think that I am trying to pick a fight or bully that person.
In my head, I was already thinking the possible responses I could get from them. Nevertheless, I anticipated that once I began exhibiting stuttering behaviors, conversing with my friend would gradually become easier. However, this was not the case and was largely in part due to the reactions I was getting from him. The core behaviors I used when talking to my friend included word and part-word repetitions and prolongations. To exacerbate my pseudostuttering, I made sure that my repetitions were tense and included at least three repetition units.
From myself, I learned that being confident with your ability to communicate will help you during times of frustration. During one episode when I lost track of thoughts, I simply told myself I could do this and quickly gathered my thoughts and carried on with the interview as if nothing went wrong. On another occasion, I did not understand an answer to one of my questions, and I simply asked for clarification. I would have normally dismissed this and carried on the conversation with a lack of detail that was needed for a true assessment of who the person truly is. Another experience I learned was from a fellow student.
I used touch and restatement/paraphrasing properly; I believe I could have used silence to give her time to say anything else that was bothering her and could have incorporated more minimal cues to encourage the client to continue to speak. I accidently gave the client false reassurance, which should be avoided in future interactions. In addition, I gave some nonverbal facial expressions that were opposite of therapeutic. This interaction made me appreciate the value of therapeutic communication. I would like to continue to practice and challenge myself to implement appropriate communication strategies as often as
According to Hansen, paying attention is when an individual remais fully prsent and involved as another might need help, with this the support person istrying to make the person feel that he /she is available to talk to. While looking beneath the surface entails the means of wandering about the softer feelings inside a person's anger and hard side with this the source of support is just trying to be a good listener. On the other hand , on checking back, the support person develop the sense of being able to sense of what is going on within that certain
It is imperative for a therapist to be simply present during a client session instead of focusing on what theoretical approach to take or what interventions may work. Smiling and using verbal and nonverbal cues to let the client know that you are listening and are able to empathize with their struggles. Sometimes using humor with the appropriate client may assist with developing the therapeutic relationship. Skillfully using self disclosure in order to let the client know that you empathize with them can be
This energy sometimes rubs off on us and we treat this person just how they treat us and at the end of the day no one is happy. I believe as future therapist nonverbal communications can make or break you. I have had patients that wanted to give me attitude and wanted to be hard to deal with, but I always made it a point to redirect them and change the session around in a positive way.
Letting the client know that it is okay to talk about his issues and problems as it is a healthy way for healing. To let the client know that cultural teaching can be hard to adjust or tweak, but there are times when they might be necessary. The therapist would need to be careful in respecting the cultural difference though whereas not to shut down the client and also show no disrespect. The possible therapy techniques that might be beneficial here would be a combination of narrative and Structural. Kong might need a plan, since his son was taking care of many of his basis needs and Kong is aged, have the client talk it out, yet propose steps that can assist in goals for the
We have Verbal, Nonverbal, listening and responding and asking questions as listening skills listed in chapter 7 of our text books. I feel two would be best when dealing with a resistant client. I feel listening and responding as well as asking questions are the most effective ways to deal with a client who just does not want to be in front of you, or does not agree with having to be in front of you. I feel listening and responding is effective because if the client is quiet, extremely demanding or totally unmotivated we need to listen to them and allow them to express themselves in any way they feel they need to for us to understand their point of view. I can see next follow with questions being very effective.
Crystal, you made an excellent observation that there may be a language barrier. It is important to ask the client if they feel they need an interruptor. In your discussion you made mention of paradoxical intervention as I did in my discussion. The use of paradoxical interventions, could allow each member to understand the perception of the other person and reduce the degree of conflict (Gerhard, 2014). Furthermore, reframing the problem to show the love that each member have for each other and the desire to please the other can hopefully minimize the tension.