Skilled Helper Analysis

Source: The book titled “The Skilled Helper” by Gerard Egan. The chapters three, six, and seven are intended to educate the reader about the importance of developing communication skills and recognizing the client and helper’s self-challenges. First, as a helper, one must be psychological, socially, emotionally and physically present to the client. Therefore, using the concepts of listening actively, listening accurately, and listening for elements is vital to the client’s success. Also, using the guidance of SOLER is helpful too. SOLER is the micro skills of attending, Squarely, Open posture, Lean toward the other, Eye Contact and Relaxed. Above all, avoid distorted listening by not being biased, using sound judgment and advice giving,

The helper must be flexible and to encourage good behaviors that the clients might not yet be recognized. Since the helper’s self-disclosure is about sharing their experiences that are appropriate as well as culturally appropriate and is only for the purpose to serve the client. A helper should also avoid telling the client how to behave, because some client’s desire more explicit instructions or challenges, and some require it. Nevertheless, be mindful that some clients need a specific, and a direct challenge to address their tactics. Also, the helper must be careful not to violate the empowerment value by challenging the client, even though; it’s not indirectly by forcing them to accept your values. Fact is challenging strengths help the client explore the assets and resources they have but fail to use. Helper’s must be sure that self-challenge exercise does not become self-demeaning or self-destructive. The focus is to help clients challenge their strengths rather than their weaknesses. Therefore, it is also important to know the source of reluctance is in the client, due to their history of experiencing an intensity of care, lack of confidence, fear of disorganization

Nichols. Chapters one through six are intended enlighten and teach the reader about the importance active listening and communication skills. The importance of listening is a significant key to the development of healthy relationships with ourselves and with others. In fact, the sincerest helper actively listens which motivates the client and make them feel valued. The significant aspects of listening are to obtain knowledge and to be fully available to someone who is speaking, hence, not to switch the conversation to yourself that will cause misunderstandings. Consequently, not being heard limits the client responsiveness and the most straightforward things from distractions, like looking around and interrupting are some of the adverse actions that can trigger a sense of rejection. Being understood is critical and very important to everyone. For example, when a child is secure, he or she becomes the adult who continues to be confident in relationships and has positive effects. Because the adverse effects of a child are not feeling secure, consequently, causes he or she to diminished by not being heard which leads to them withholding their feelings and opinions and, therefore, harms the whole procedure of communication. When communication breaks down, we become defensive and transfer our expectations onto others, expecting them to behave in a way that fits our perceptions of responsiveness. The helper must know