Importance Of Values In Counselling

The values that will guide the interaction between me as a helper and the client (MJ) as highlighted by Egan:
(Egan, 2013) mentioned five values that will guide the interaction between the helper and the client, these five values are:
- Respect
- Empathy
- Pro-active appreciation of diversity
- Self-responsibility
- A bias toward action
The main goal of these values is to guide the helper when there is uncertainties with regards to ethical uncertainties, ideas, morals, beliefs, etc. These values inform the helper on how to act and react in order to help the client get better and not worse. You (the helper) need to make these values your own in order to make a difference in the helping process. These values will be discussed below.
Respect

Don’t feel sorry for the client that is sympathy. Just let the client know you understand their situation.
- Carl Rogers (Rogers, 1962) the founder of person centred counselling, concluded that the important elements of empathy are:
-the therapist understands the client 's feelings
-the therapist 's responses reflects the client 's mood and the content of what has been said
-the therapist ' tone of voice conveys the ability to share the client 's feelings.
Proactive appreciation of diversity, the helper has to handle each situation with sensitivity and knowledge with regards to the culture that the helper is dealing with.
- A helper should pay attention to their blind spots about diversity in order to handle situations to the best of their ability.
- Understand and appreciate diversity, even though clients are all human they all have a lot of differences like personality, origin, ethnicity, gender, culture, etc.
- Hays (2007, 2009) offered the ADDRESSING (Age, Developmental and acquired Disabilities, Religion, Ethnicity, Socioeconomic status, Sexual orientation, Indigenous heritage, and Gender) framework which helps the helper handle and understand multiculturalism and diversity in a better and a multidimensional

- Become a coach or consultant to clients, see yourself (the helper) as a coach or “expert consultant who is there to help clients face their problems and to help them live as effective as possible. Helpers can support, teach, observe, challenge, advise, etc. the client, but the responsibility still stays with the client to change.
- Accept helping as a natural, two-way influence process, both the helper and the client can learn through the helping process. No one is ever perfect and therefore there is always space to learn. The helper will learn from the client just as the client will learn from the helper.
- Self, responsibility, self-regulation and self-control, it is necessary that the client has self-responsibility, but without self-regulation or self-control, self-responsibility won’t be able for the client. Studies has shown that a lack of self-control is one of the main causes for many people’s problems (Tangney, Baumeister, & Boone, 2004). You as helper need to help your client with their self-control and self-regulation.
A bias toward action, for life-enhancing outcomes it is necessary that client’s engage directly or indirectly in the behaviour that leads to life-enhancing